Red: A Crayon's Story

Author: Michael Hall
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by Laura_Sandra   2019-11-17

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

And as book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story

And in general a few things from this post might also be helpful. There are explaining resources there, etc.

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-11-17

It may be an option to do things step by step.

Looking for a supportive gender therapist may be a good idea.

And a few things from this and this post might help concerning a partner.

And a number of things from this post might help you too. There is a vid with questions there and hints to things that can be tried out, there are hints there concerning looking for support, etc.

And if there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

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by MondayToFriday   2019-11-17

I used the book Red: a Crayon's Story to come out to my kids. It's about a blue crayon that got mislabeled as red, and is pressured by friends to draw things that are supposed to be red, with hilarious results. Then, one friend finally helps the crayon discover that blue is his true color, despite the label.

Eight years old is at the upper end of the intended audience of that book, but it's an amusing and educational story for kids of all ages.

by Laura_Sandra   2019-11-17

Its basically up to you ... sometimes the kind of explanation can play a role with acceptance. But it would be understandable if she would cut them out.

Here might be a few explaining resources and here at the bottom might be a few hints concerning looking fir support and connecting to others.

PFLAG for example might be a place of support for lgbt people and they may know someone others may accept as authorities, like accepting ministers.

And concerning children some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-11-17

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc). This may help understand that you always were this way and just adapt the outside. It may be possible to explain it this way.

And I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

And in general making a calm impression and that all will be fine could help too.

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-11-17

>I was thinking this morning and realised that I might be trans and be familiar with a lot of things, but I've very rarely heard stories of trans parents talking about their relationship with their kids, and I'm super curious and want to learn more.

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ ,and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story

And in general it may be an idea to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy, and to try to go there step by step.

A number of things from this and this post might help you too.

There is a vid with questions in the resources. Answers could help talk to a therapist, or they could help get a better view. And there is a vid there with things that can be tried out, there are hints concerning looking for a gender therapist, and there are also hints concerning looking for support in the second link.

And some people ask for a therapist for reasons concerning emotions ( which is true), and look for someone who has, amongst others, gender on their list. They may help explain later.

And it can come in cycles and it can get stronger over time. Going into the direction it points to, even when it is weaker at times, may be a good idea.

And persistently and in depth questioning gender assigned at birth can be a sign in itself. Cis people usually do not do this. For them its a few short thoughts of how it might be, and they move on.

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-08-24

Well its up to you .. some people suggest to make changes slowly, some people decide to split amicably eventually.

Its up to you ...

a few things from this and this post might help concerning a partner.

And in generala number of things from this and this post might help you too.

There is a vid with unobtrusive things there that can be done for motivation, there are hints concerning presentation, starting with neutral styles first, and there are also hints concerning looking for support there.

And it can come in cycles and it can get stronger over time. Going into the direction it points to, even when it is weaker at times, may be a good idea.

And persistently and in depth questioning gender assigned at birth can be a sign in itself. Cis people usually do not do this. For them its a few short thoughts of how it might be, and they move on.

And concerning children if there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-08-24

Its up to you ...

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

And it sounds like the family is not really accepting. A few things from this post might help you too in case. There are also hints concerning looking for support there.

Giving a biological explanation may be an option eventually.

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-08-24

A number of things from this post might help you too.

There are a number of explaining resources there.

And there is a vid with questions in the resources. Answers could help talk to a therapist. There is a vid with unobtrusive things that can be done for motivation, there are hints concerning presentation, starting with neutral styles first, there are hints concerning looking for a gender therapist, and there are also hints concerning looking for support there.

And it can come in cycles and it can get stronger over time. Going into the direction it points to, even when it is weaker at times, may be a good idea.

And persistently and in depth questioning gender assigned at birth can be a sign in itself. Cis people usually do not do this. For them its a few short thoughts of how it might be, and they move on.

As book they may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

And a few things from here and here might help cis people understand trans people . The first link is by a trans person and many cis people said it is the best description they have read.

(TW suicide mention. And not all trans people show this level of dysphoria but it may be stressful in any case.)

Please tell them to stay away from self harm in any case. It leads to nowhere.

And this may help show that important is how people feel and not outer body parts, and that identity and orientation etc. are different things :

http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Genderbread-2.1.jpg

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

As others said, having legal counseling may be advisable.

And if there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

And sometimes the kind of explanation can play a role with acceptance.

Here may be a few explaining resources and there are also hints concerning looking for support there.

hugs

by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

And in general a number of things from this and this post might help you too.

There is a vid with questions in the resources. Answers could help talk to a therapist. There is a vid with unbtrusive things that can be done for motivation, there are hints concerning presentation, starting with neutral styles first, there are hints concerning looking for a gender therapist, and there are also hints concerning looking for support there.

And it can come in cycles and it can get stronger over time. Going into the direction it points to, even when it is weaker at times, may be a good idea.

hugs

by stufff   2019-07-21

Red: A Crayon's Story

>A blue crayon mistakenly labeled as "red" suffers an identity crisis in this picture book by the New York Times–bestselling creator of My Heart Is Like a Zoo and It's an Orange Aardvark! Funny, insightful, and colorful, Red: A Crayon's Story, by Michael Hall, is about being true to your inner self and following your own path despite obstacles that may come your way. Red will appeal to fans of Lois Ehlert, Eric Carle, and The Day the Crayons Quit, and makes a great gift for readers of any age!

>Red has a bright red label, but he is, in fact, blue. His teacher tries to help him be red (let's draw strawberries!), his mother tries to help him be red by sending him out on a playdate with a yellow classmate (go draw a nice orange!), and the scissors try to help him be red by snipping his label so that he has room to breathe. But Red is miserable. He just can't be red, no matter how hard he tries! Finally, a brand-new friend offers a brand-new perspective, and Red discovers what readers have known all along. He's blue! This funny, heartwarming, colorful picture book about finding the courage to be true to your inner self can be read on multiple levels, and it offers something for everyone.

by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070 , and possibly https://www.amazon.com/My-New-Mommy/dp/1482757192/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

And as book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

hugs

by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

Don't know if you have seen it .. in general a few things from this post might help you too.

hugs

by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

If there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

/r/transparents is for Trans parents. There are Facebook groups for Trans parents as well. See https://www.facebook.com/groups/1515829028742767/ , https://www.facebook.com/groups/1501185016619557/ , and https://www.facebook.com/groups/QTPPgroup/ , amongst others.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

Its up to you when and how to come out ... sometiimes the kind of explanation can play a role wih acceptance.

There are more and more studies showing its a biological condition, due to development before birth. So its not contagious ( a fear many people seem to have). Its a rare birth condition.

Brochure explaining with pictures and summing up studies :

https://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk/documents/nhs/doh-transgender-experiences.pdf

Its nobodys fault and just a way people are.

A few things from this post might also be helpful.

There are also hints concerning looking for support there. And for example PFLAG might help with relatives.

And if there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070 . It may be possible to talk this through with parents.

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by Laura_Sandra   2019-07-21

In general a few things from here might be helpful. There are also hints concerning looking for support there.

And if there are no disturbing influences, children can be more accepting than adults.

Some people explain like a can : they are the gender they identify with inside (can) and are about to change the outside ( labels etc).

I know of someone who tried to explain to a kid. Someone else in the room just said : they regenerated ( a Dr. Who concept). The child looked in awe. If the concept is known, it may be easy to explain.

As book you may like Red: A Crayon's Story. https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070

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