Second ed. Hardy
There is also another that works well for established couples called, "Opening Up" that I would recommend.
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/157344295X
You can find this on Audible as well
Thank you both for these comments. Extremely helpful.
u/sliceofpie I do want that conversation with my wife, but I find it kinda awkward knowing how to start it.
I think at the back of mind it's been there like "What if I'm wrong, what if it's not what it seems" but seeing comments like:
>She and Rebecca have almost certainly had conversations about this
is helpful, kinda reassuring that I'm not just adding two and two and getting ten.
> and your kids. Don't forget about them.
That is key for me, and kinda something I didn't really mention as I'm not sure how it would affect them as such. All three of them are like "perfect" brothers, better than most siblings actually, maybe that's in part due to the fact that one isn't really a brother and as such they behave better than most other siblings we know. (me and my brother were awful together as kids too).
Whatever we did I'd want to ensure the kids were not going to be negatively affected by it, her son as much as our two.
> If no one else has suggested it, I recommend you read the book "Opening Up" as a sort of primer for opening up your marriage
Thank you u/embersilverly I don't know why but I never even thought for a moment about seeing if there were books on the topic.
This the one I assume you mean?