The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt

Category: Business Culture
Author: Robert I. Sutton
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by Perseus_SS   2019-08-24

I use vague friendliness and disengage as soon as possible.

Not sure if this is a trait of an INFJ, but I noticed I get projected on from other people, like I'm a walking mirror. So I don't let their comments sink in, it's a glimpse into their psychology.

Sometimes I need more time alone when I'm not working to recharge.

I highly recommend you read "The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt." https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Survival-Guide-People-Treat/dp/1328695913

by UrsusArctos9   2019-08-24

The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt https://www.amazon.com/dp/1328695913/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_dVJYCbYYK8GJZ

by Bartelbythescrivener   2019-07-21

Missed this one. https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Survival-Guide-People-Treat/dp/1328695913/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=how+to+deal+with+assholes&qid=1551202999&s=gateway&sr=8-1

by KnowsTheLaw   2019-07-21

There are lots of factors involved. What it boils down to for me is that abuse is bad, and if the abuser is trying to obtain something, then there is a better way of getting that.

I've read a few books on abuse, and this is probably the best one for most scenarios:

https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Survival-Guide-People-Treat/dp/1328695913

Another reason to read more than the classics. :)

edit: support is a factor. If the person who is abusing you is giving you something, then you're more likely to stay in that relationships. I try to stay away from abusive people. They will make excuses, but if they're not going to change, then there's lots of people to hang out with who will treat you better.

by jmalicki   2019-05-31
There's literally a whole book by a Stanford biz school professor about this exact subject.

One of my pet favorite tips: pretend you're a research psychologist observing a patient with a rare mental disorder (doesn't solve all of the problems, but at least helps to cope).

https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Survival-Guide-People-Treat/d...