No More Mr Nice Guy

Author: Robert A. Glover
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No More Mr Nice Guy

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by RedPillPowerNine   2018-11-10

> set aside time in the evenings to just be “with” my wife, not just in the same room on our phones.

That's an attraction killer right there. There is a lot of value in these books, they have helped a lot of men.

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The above book isn't about being a dick, it's about being assertive and being able to communicate your needs. It's loaded with exercises to do with your spouse.

Next

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Then, for the warmth and attraction you are missing form your wife is proablly your fault and you don't even know what you did. All married men should read this book.

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If one of thoes books help you make sure to play it forward and help another man. It's why I'm here taking punches in the face in blue pill land.

by jimmyharbrah   2018-11-10

To add to this reading list:

When I say No I feel Guilty

And

No More Mr. Nice Guy

Very generally, both books helped me understand that I was looking to others for approval, rather than finding approval from myself. I think it would be worth reading for any man, but especially what OP is describing.

by Mox_Ruby   2018-11-10

>In short, I kind of feel like we should call it off. I've actually tried to do so a few times, but she becomes so inconsolable and sad- and I feel guilty about moving and, for that one year period, being a super shitty boyfriend- that I quickly cave. It seems clear to me that she will never call off the relatonship/engagement. Perhaps because she feels the pressure of biological clock, is worried what other people think, or something else. But she wont call it off, and she wont change.

Solution:

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>The biggest thing to me is that I am starting to mimic her verbal abuse. I've NEVER been one to argue in a relationship, or really in general (not in a mean spirited way). but i occasionally curse at her. on 3-4 occasions, she has even become physically violent with me. I'm not in physical danger or anything and I'm not pretending its remotely the same as the reverse (gender speaking), but its a level of "crazy" i never wanted to be involved in.

Solution:

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>Plus she is almost 35, and feels she is running out of time.

That's a dangerous place to be for you. This is where unexpected pregnancies tend to pop up. Think about this from her perspective. She's 35, if you leave her, she has to secure another male and get him to commit, that could take over a year. Then she has to spend enough time with him to build a relationship and get a proposal. Then she has to conceive, it takes 9 months to make a baby if she gets pregnant on the first attempt and you should read some facts about how hard it csn be to conceive at 40 because that's where she will be. Her time Is running out and it has to be you. These are the worst possible conditions to set up a healthy marriage.

You don't value YOURSELF. That's your main issue. You lived in the Bay area as a young professional that means you have earning potential. And you sound like a good man.

You need to set better boundaries.

You have already been nice enough putting up with what you have so far. It's time to be a bit unnice.

by beelzebubs_avocado   2018-11-10

Your friend might find the book "No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life" useful.

by Makorbit   2018-11-10

The difficulty of trying to improve 'social skills' is that social interactions are not automata, that is, there is no fixed flowchart or script you can learn that will work in every situation. The solution? Develop the correct mindset and inner pillar of confidence and everything will grow from there.

No book will ever replace real-life practice, but your mentality determines pretty much everything when going into these situations. It impacts your growth, direction, perspective on situations, and most importantly, your confidence.

Practicing The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Mindefulness Meditation and inner peace

I am not a spiritual or religious person, this book has some religious flavour but the ideas are powerful. I've been looking for a good book on mindfulness meditation and similar practices and this has been pretty good so far. The mind is a tool, mindfulness meditation gives you the skills to control it. Helps you get 'out of your head' which causes you to blank out, or fall into one of your 'ruts'.

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Just As You Are by Nick Sparks

Confidence and Mentality

I haven't read this in a while but I found this to be helpful at the time. The main thing I got out of this was the concept of ruts, and general discussion about what they are and how to deal with them.

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Mastery by George Leonard

Mentality and Growth

Social skills are 'skills' just like anything else. Mastery is a fantastic short read discussing the journey to mastery in any skill, the expected pitfalls, and the mentality needed to get there.

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The Like Switch

Social Frameworks

Fairly good read, I liked this better than the ever popular 'How to win friends and influence people'.

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No More Mr. Niceguy by Robert Glover

Social ruts and self-reflection

The 'niceguy' syndrome is a very toxic mentality that infects a fair number of people. This will stop you from becoming an r/redpill or r/incels person.

by fgawker   2018-11-10

No More Mr. Nice Guy.

by takemehomecountry   2018-11-10

You can try Models by Mark Manson. Or possibly No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

I've read the former and it's pretty much TRP self-improvement advice without the misogyny. I haven't read the latter but I think it's the same.

by pupilofproductivity   2018-11-10

No More Mr Nice Guy - By Robert A. Glover

by jw_wobblylight   2018-11-10

Seems many people adopted a cult like following to the philosophies Objectivism, reminds me of the 48 laws on people’s Need to Believe to Create a Cult like Following http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2011/05/law-27-play-on-peoples-need-to-believe.html.

The essence on her philosophies also reminds me of the book [https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/0762415339) when i read that book, while empowering made me angry on how much I always try and please others as the expense of my own virtues.

Its an interesting subject.

by catdaddy4evr   2018-11-10

Follow the Amazon Link,

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