You may find this online workbook helpful, Positive Coping for health Conditions. the PDF version is a bit slow to load so I linked to the site rather than that.
There is also Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness helpful. I know I did as the focus is around mindfulness and radical acceptance. Your local library may have a copy if you don't wish to purchase it.
I don't know that you can really 'do the opposite' of feeling sick if you actually are sick. I mean there is a certain amount of 'fake it till you make it' type of thinking depending on your symptoms but if you are legitimately experiencing say, a headache, you can't really pretend that you're not feeling pain. If you wanted to say instead, Cope ahead, that might be a better strategy. "I know I have a headache but I want to try and go out, so I will take medication with me. I will also book an Uber to pick me up if I can't stay. I will tell my friend I am feeling poorly ahead of time so they can support me and help me. etc"
I had a lot of health related problems (digestive issues/reflux, stomach inflammation), insomnia, and then fibroids right after so I empathize with your struggle.
You may also want to see if there are any kind of chronic pain / healthcare type drop in groups where you might be able to go and seek support. I know our local library has one.
> It's difficult for me to be Bran. Sitting is painful. Lying down is painful. And the pain demands attention. In fact, it pretty much dictates my attention.
Pain and attention. Attention. Attention. YES! THIS. This is the place where most of your change will happen.
Can you master your attention? The pain becomes bearable from time to time if you can master the faculty of attention. And once you master it enough, you will be able to devote some time to making money, and once you have done that enough, you will be able to buy pain medication.
I know a friend who has suffered arthritis from a very young age and had his entire body be out of whack. But he willed himself to live and has taken all help possible from everywhere, and he is doing amaxing now.
Pretty much like Mikhaila Peterson.
I think you might also have the same trajectory.
Anyways, here is a book you really need to master.
Written by Jon Kobat-Zinn
> (Jon Kabat-Zinn is an American professor emeritus of medicine and the creator of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School)
It is about attention, and intense pain. And maybe, just maybe if you master this book and all the techniques, you'll feel a tremendous sense of growth? Relief?
I have not suffered as much as you have, but whenever I have been in terrible physical pain, all I have needed to do is bring my attention on the breath. That is all that is needed. And my body automatically recovers from it.
You might also need a few experts to look at your body and see if it needs some special treatment.
Lots of new research kicking around. That's a science-backed approach.