Some practical points now some for the future:
Avoid indulging the temptation of the "I will never list"
Make a new bucket list
Change your self talk: " you can do it, you can do it, you can do it"
Mantras work: "every day in every way, I'm getting better and better" (Google Emile Coue)
Conscious Gratitude: before you go to sleep each night, run through your mind and try and think of 3 things (literally anything big or small) that you are grateful for right now. (Seriously try this)
Do things that make you happy
Chase down friends and family experiences proactively
Get outside and exercise in any small way.
Best thing I invested in was an electric bike
Swimming pool is a must
Write a journal: Learn Dragon dictate for the PC
Invest in a decent touch screen phone, tablet/laptop, Bluetooth headset
Get some therapy asap
Listen to your body. Don't try to do things it can't.
Listen to your physio they are magicians
Understand the drugs (nerve pain) are essential early on but you are going to want to keep an eye on them and try to get off them some day (took me 4 yrs, still on bladder pills)
Get serious about your diet. Bladder and bowels are the hardest thing to contend with. Fresh fuit n veg.
If possible get or maintain your career
One last thing: read this book The Chimp Paradox
The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/009193558X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_uOCRCb2BJFG8X
This is a very personal list. As practical as it may be for me. 90% of what's going to help you understand what works for you will be hard earned through your own experiences.
You can do it! ��
The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/009193558X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-sqRCbJGENBWH
I find meditating calms the mind and sets it up for the day. Try doing 10 minutes every morning. You can use the free sessions on the Headspace app to learn how to do it.
I find making lists helpful. Whether that would be what I need to do today or long-term goals which I review every week.
Also you might find the following book helpful:\nThe Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness
It really helped me!\nAmazon link: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-..."]