Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence: Revised and Updated for the 21st Century

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It was written many decades ago, and the actual investment advice was very much tied to the times, but the philosophy is still valid, it is entitled “Your money or your Life” . https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship/dp/0143115766

MMM (Mr Money Mustache) blog and forum are somewhat international, but English speaking based. The blog is a great resource for understanding the math behind savings rates and time to retirement https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/

This guy is a little too out there for me, but Jacob Lund Fisker. Aka “early retirement extreme” or ERE, is a Scandinavian guy who lives by extreme frugality https://www.amazon.com/Early-Retirement-Extreme-Philosophical-Independence/dp/145360121X He has his own website and forum too

I’m really glad that you’re being honest with yourself, introspective and detailed with your relationship with money. There are a lot of fantastic recommendations already so I won’t belabor the point.

However I’d like to recommend two books that may be of great use for you:

1. Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robbins (https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship/dp/0143115766/ref=nodl_). The other posts in this thread have great tactics and suggestions that I wholeheartedly agree with.

In addition to implementing those tactics, I would encourage you to read this book which does a wonderful job of also adding more logic, data, perspective, “oomf” and meat to the feelings of “this has to stop” you currently have. It’ll be a book that helps your attitude stay changed if you are tempted to relapse.

1. I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi. The title is rather flamboyant and lame. The content is not. Ramit is a Stanford grad son of Indian immigrants who takes a no-nonsense and often hilarious attitude to writing about getting your shit together when it comes to personal finance. It has a fantastic list of tactics, strategies AND philosophical frameworks to think about money contained in it. Really worth the read. Get the 2nd edition (recently released) since it has about ~80 new pages of content that covers some of the newer fads (e.g., roboinvestors like Wealthfront and the like).

You might want to read *Your Money or Your Life * - I saw it recommended somewhere here recently, although I haven't started reading my copy yet.

Try not to sweat it - this trust just means that your fiancé has enough money to pursue his art, and to for you to pursue your academic interests.

Assuming you're happy with the way you've been living your lives together, then you can keep doing that, and you have loads of security.

You don't need to worry too much about maximising the earnings from this money. Assuming the £25k loan from your dad is to last you the 3 or 4 year length of your PhD then, even invested quite conservatively, this inheritance will return a bit more than you're used to.

For me, the biggest risk of such a large sum would be of me doing something "clever" and stupid. Buffet is a sophisticated investor, and he has stated that he will instead favour index trackers for his wife. You should probably read up on what those are - one of Bogle's books (Common Sense on Mutual Funds, perhaps?) might be a good start.

It sounds like you are doing everything right. Just don't fall victim to lifestyle creep, keep your savings rate high.

Reading list: (most of them recommend other books within their pages, which are all worth your while to check out also)

If You Can [PDF] author's website: http://efficientfrontier.com/ef/0adhoc/2books.htm

Millionaire Next Door [amazon link]

Your Money or Your Life [amazon link]

Bogleheads' Guide to Investing [amazon link]

Do yourself a favor and read your money or your lifehttps://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/0143115766