The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

Category: Mental Health
Author: Fumitake Koga
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by bfieidhbrjr   2020-08-03
I was in the same boat. I have a book recommendation for you:

https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happin...

by rglover   2020-07-27
Think some people here can benefit from reading these two:

https://www.amazon.com/Awareness-Opportunities-Reality-Antho...

https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happin...

Why? They help to rewire your brain and help you detach from a lot of the things and ideas. Not a silver bullet (depression is one of several, natural, human states) but may help some who want to avoid the pharmacological route.

by brobourbon   2019-07-21

FWIW: I just recently finished (listened on Audible) the book "The Courage to be Disliked..." which is based on the psychology of Alfred Alder. I was completely unaware of Adler and his model of psychology but this book has literally blown my mind. I believe that this book can be invaluable to newly out Exmo's due to the way it addresses how to live one's own life authentically, how to set boundaries, how to be unconcerned or unaffected by what others may think of you, and what is freedom in life and how to achieve it.

Here are a few of the chapter titles that deeply impacted me that might give you an idea of the content of this book..Ch. 12: "All Problems are Interpersonal Relationship Problems", Ch. 25: "Do Not Live to Satisfy the Expectations of Others", Ch. 26: "How to Separate Tasks" (this is boundary setting), Ch. 27: "Discard other People's Tasks" (more boundary setting), Ch. 51: "The Courage to Be Normal" (acceptance of life and problems)

by Guydowntheroad09   2019-07-21

I've been beginning to be convinced that emotions like angers are tools used to move towards goals instead of something irrational that controls us. In that manner it may help you to reflect on why you would choose to be angry, which decisions, whether conscious or unconscious, lead you to believe that anger is the correct tool for this situation and then maybe trying to come up with and alternative way to go about those situations that seem to arouse your anger.

A good book to read that I've been recommending to just about everyone lately is "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga The book talks about a lot of the difficulties we face in life and touches on things like anger. Hope this helps!

by JOoa0ky   2019-07-21

What exactly is causing these depressive cycles? Addressing the symptoms and not the root cause is like running on a hamster wheel. You haven't given any hints but ill take a leap... Have you heard of the book, The courage to be disliked.

https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274

by gromy   2018-07-19
Yikes! Here are some books I’d recommend for you:

https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Positive-Brain-Su...

https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Tra...

https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happin...

https://www.amazon.com/One-Thing-Surprisingly-Extraordinary-...