Haven’t dug into this yet but I bought it specifically because it is structured like an owner’s manual:
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_kMH6Cb98YH7AT
What to expect when you're expecting?
Also, Baby Owner's Manual
Not being sarcastic, and even though the book is funny I highly recommend you pick up the Baby Owners Manual.
It helps the analytical person have a pocket reference for topics they can't rightly plan for. They have a toddler version to buy i can't speak to it.
Dad of 2 here (4 and 2)
1) Breathe. You cannot comprehend what its like to be a dad yet so frankly don't burn too much energy trying. Just prepare the best you can and accept that there will be things you aren't ready for. But it will be ok, you and your wife will get through this into parenthood just fine.
2) The best baby book I've ever read as a dad is the Baby Owner's Manual. I give it to all my buds who are soon to be dads. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_snkWCbEB79DZK
3) Take care of your wife and be prepared to be patient. She is literally growing a being inside of her. Shit is gonna get stressful and downright traumatic for her and you need to be her anchor to reality and calm the whole time.
4) Don't hesitate to ask for advice from other parents the entire time. It really takes a village, digital or otherwise, to make it work and you are not alone.
Good luck, man. Congratulations!
There is one book I would recommend: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/ref=nodl_
It has everything you need to know
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1594745978/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_eocNCbKW3AD9F
I got my husband this book and I think it helped a lot. We also took a new parents class at the hospital. But we had so many of these dumb conversations: sleeping on their backs, no blankets, all kinds of stuff I thought was obvious at this point. If he'll trust that you know what you're doing and he's willing to learn, I think you'll be good!
When we were expecting our first, someone gave us the “Baby User Manual”. https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/1594745978 It can with a poster that had swaddling steps. A bit of practice with it and could start swaddling with my eyes closed. Which was pretty normal after a few weeks of 3AM feedings.
My husband is not much of a reader and likes things straight-forward. So i got him this: https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/1594745978 and he loves it.
Do you mean books on how to be a dad? Books to read to your baby? Books on how to teach your kid science?
Edit: For the first category, start with this
Self-professed nerd dad here. I loved this when I was dealing with the panic of an infant. It's fun and contains some useful info too.
The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/1594745978
The Baby Owner's Manual is an actual thing with real advice.
Pick up a book or two to fill you in on the basics. My husband really got a lot out of these two:
This one for the nuts & bolts mechanics: https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/1594745978
And this one for more the emotional/what to expect: https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/0399166262
I was also a fan of the pregnancy app from "What to Expect when You're Expecting" because it gave week by week updates about what was happening with Baby and tips to deal with the physical and psychological changes.
Then start talking about what you want things to look like. If you're wanting to get married before Baby arrives, sooner is better because you're going to have a lot more on your plate coming up very soon.
Scheduling an appointment with a doctor to find out how far along, etc. will also give you an opportunity to ask questions from someone who will be with you every step of the way.
This is one of my favorites. Fun to read and useful, non judgmental information.
I got my husband his favourite candy (a tub of Costco sour keys), a funny dad-to-be card and the Baby Owner's Manual because I couldn't remember what my original plan was (yay baby brain?). /r/predaddit seems to love this book and my husband is already getting a kick out of it. I just remembered now that I see this post that I meant to get him this Mercer Mayer book . We celebrated father's day with my family last weekend cause we all have a wedding this weekend...maybe I'll surprise him with it after the birth. Thanks for the reminder!
My husband really liked this one. It's not specifically for dads but it's funny and written in that matter of fact way that he likes.