after the last 2 episodes I started " The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck"
I would recommend giving this a read: https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1RMBFCYGYWLFK&keywords=the+subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+f---+mark+manson&qid=1558913677&s=gateway&sprefix=the+subtle+%2Caps%2C128&sr=8-3
However, most of the positivity and optimism that I've gained over the last few months was due to recovering from heartbreak. Did a lot of soul searching and introspective work to figure things out for myself (as well as seeking out therapy). So, everything I've learned has been a mixed bag. What I can say to you is that you yourself, as a person, no matter how you view yourself, how you think people may see you, are enough. More than enough. Whatever little thing you do in your day to day has impact on the world around you. You may not know it, believe it, or even be aware of it but, it has worth. Remember, every footstep always makes an impression in the ground.
I suggest you read this book:
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
You look like the kind of guy I would be happy to have date my teen daughter. You appear kind and respectful. 16 sucks for just about everyone, it will get better and you will live your dreams. Just don’t give up and you’ll see- this life has a lot to offer you.
With maturity comes an ever increasing ability to not give a fuck what other people think of you. In fact, do you like to read? Check out this book:
Good luck son, you’re gonna do great. ❤️
Edit: You are certainly not a Luzer and might I suggest you make a new username so as not to reinforce that idea in your mind. You want to try to focus on positive things about yourself, not drill home the negative things your brain invents.
If you self harm because people make fun of you, you should probably get help. I can recommend this book.
I think you know the answer, but don't allow yourself to act on it. You're afraid of committing to something you don't have control over. You're afraid of negative emotions, because you don't know how to deal with them. Your plan right now is to adjust your life to avoid negative events and emotions, instead of learning how to deal with them.
Thing is, whether it's in love or something else, like losing someone to sickness or death, or losing your job, you won't be able to escape having to deal with heartbreaks.
The only way to deal with heartbreak is by experiencing it. By knowing life will go on and achievable, even if the mountain in front of you seems insurmountable.
You could see a therapist like somebody else suggested. Some self-improvement books might help you. I suggest reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.
Some advice I can give myself is to start putting things in perspective. How does something affect you in the long run? How does it affect you in a week, a year or a decade? Look at the bigger picture and things become relative. Get yourself to think everything is a moment to learn from, to shape you to be a better person.
Also, if your happiness depends on needing someone else, something is wrong. You should be happy in life regardless of being with someone. I know that's hard to achieve, but it's definitely not impossible if you keep working on it.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062457713/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oNgvCbKRPADN3
I thought this was a great book!
You need to read this book:
You are not ugly, you are beautiful and unique so stop taking selfies and comparing yourself to others. Remember that when you find the right guy he is going to appreciate you in the long run and love you for your imperfections not your perfection. It will be the quirks, and the silly things you do that he will like about you. As long as you take care of yourself, i.e. you are clean, well groomed, well dressed, presentable, and you take care of your health by eating well and exercising you will be fine.
Came here to say basically this. Life does get better when you stop giving a F* about what most people think.
mark manson would be the author of that book
Link above to amazon
Give this a read
There are only so many fucks a person can give in one day.
I’m getting ready to read this . Maybe you should try it, too.
Read this: https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/0062457713
Just remembered your post on Friday but didn’t have time to respond. Check out thisbook or better, audiobook .
Also have a read/audiobook of this and find out what works for you.
Audible usually have a trial period, should be easy to set up.
It’s not a good place where you are and may take time to get out but worth the effort.
Mind needs a reset. Good luck.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
This book is good https://toptalkedbooks.com/amzn/0062457713