I am glad you are open to engaging with me on this topic. I appreciate your point about the types of mistreatment that many minority person's grandparents faced are not the case anymore, thank goodness.
When I began learning about these sorts of issues, one of the things that impacted me the most viscerally was familiarity. Most school teachers are white and because of this I do not have to feel anything but comfort and familiarity in the face of most teachers. A minority student in the same position will be in situations where they do not "fit in" with the majority racially and ethnically. Also, typically schools in low-income communities and those in communities consisting of primarily people of color are severely underfunded, so the school is not as good nor does it have as many opportunities as others, which might make it harder for students attending to see the value in it. When everyone around you has never graduated or it didn't visibly help them, why should they care either? - That's kind of how I think about it.
Another consideration are effects government policies that are largely behind us, such as redlining and gentrification. While it is not our country's policy today, we did devalue neighborhoods based upon the presence of black, and other minority, families in the past. This meant that minority groups had a difficult time getting loans in many of the "nicer" neighborhoods. A poor white family would have been at a large advantage to receive a loan that would allow them to buy a house in one of these communities, their children could go to school in nicer facilities with newer textbooks and without the burden of worrying or worrying about supporting their families (to the extent of minorities).
Today we still recognize the challenge of being a first generation student, for many minorities getting to that point was even harder to laws and societal forces discriminating against them.
There is much more to all of this then I can put in a single comment, but I recommend looking up things like gentrification and redlining, and the Federal Housing Agency's view on people of color in the 1960s and 70s - particularly how those policies and laws negatively affected people of color. If you wish to know more, Robin DiAngelo wrote a great book about related topics, many of which white people often just don't think about because we haven't been exposed to it or needed to think about them. You can find it [here](https://www.amazon.com/White-Fragility-People-About-Racism/dp/0807047414/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=CjwKCAjw9dboBRBUEiwA7VrrzWDxjioQAIGNeFai6Fsgxn2_sFtDmdU4TjGRWg5RkU93Pzgke15PZRoCMVIQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241949715031&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9022035&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=10628953467337170282&hvtargid=kwd-242688300007&hydadcr=22534_10344589&keywords=white+fragility&qid=1561766919&s=gateway&sr=8-1).
I would love to hear more about your perspectives and experiences, feel free to dm me if you want to talk more, or would like sources.
the dictionary definition isn't going to cut it. Go read this: https://www.amazon.com/White-Fragility-People-About-Racism/dp/0807047414
and then we can have a conversation about how a lot of what you said is actually pretty racist.
According to this book it’s racism. This video is white fragility in action. It’s a New York Times & Amazon best seller so it’s really opened my eyes to how racist white liberals are. The act out in all sorts of ways when interacting with people of color https://www.amazon.com/White-Fragility-People-About-Racism/dp/0807047414
I've got this on hold at the library. I go through library books way more quickly than I read the books I own, because I don't have to return those.
I’m white. It’s not racist to expose the crimes of my own race. White fragility is real & white liberals suffer from it...
> In the above post, he mentioned someone dressing like that having a predilection to do dumb or ignorant shit.
Why do you think we might think this? Hint: It's racism. We've taken a style associated with minority groups and associated it with doing dumb shit. It's not stereotyping to say that a certain style of clothing is predominantly worn by certain cultural groups. A stereotype is an overly generalized belief about something. Identifying that a certain style is predominately associated with certain cultural groups is not an overgeneralization, but saying that people who dress a certain way are dumb is an overgeneralization. Most people who wear kimonos are Japanese. If we suddenly started saying that people who wear kimonos are dumb, then what are we really saying? And at what point did the overgeneralization take place?
Race is 100% a power relationship. It is advantageous for those in power to racialize certain groups of people in order to maintain order, at the cost of excluding these races. Most white people in America directly (albeit, in the past) benefit from slavery. Because of Jim Crow Laws, white people were able to get redlined into the nice places and the people of color were excluded. Because of the New Jim Crow (eg, marijuana laws and broken windows policies), minority communities have been kept impoverished and white communities have separately thrived. Things that enable and justify this kind of thinking are racist. Finding a roundabout way to say that certain minority groups are dumb function to justify these things. We say that poor, dilapidated neighborhoods need more policing because of crime, we're not saying anything bad about black people directly, but since race and economic status are correlated, then we're really just saying that we need to police black neighborhoods (which is what happened). Even though, if the windows are broken, an effective way to reduce crime is to fix the goddamn windows. If our ideas are that people dressed as in the image are people who do dumb shit, then when we see someone like that we'll be more likely to try and find something bad about them. Possibly leading to police being called on them just for occupying white spaces (like Starbucks).
Racism is very complicated and powerful. It's more that just the KKK, we all contribute to it. The notion that it is isolated, single events of discrimination by ill-willed people prevents us from making progress. We have to understand ourselves as raced people, and that there is an implied power relationship between different races, and that we need to actively subvert this. Pretending that race isn't a think is harmful to progress against racism. Understanding the effects of what we say as racial actions is important to make progress about racism. Moreover, the fact that it is urban streetwear which is (rightfully or wrongfully) associated with urban minorities means that the overgeneralizations we make about the style are actually overgeneralizations about a race.
Your statements about the nature of racism are outdated. I would recommend reading the book White Fragility (pdf), which is a discussion about race for white people who are typically are resistant to contemporary ideas about race because it is associated with ill-intended actions, and we're all good intended so can't be racist, right? But the truth is that we all do racist things (myself included), and the more stop trying to excuse ourselves and look critically about the real racial relationships that enable inequality, the more we can work against it.
Recently I got a very interesting book called White Fragility by Robin D'Angelo. Now I do not live in the US, but I was horribly surprised how many points this book raises applied directly to me.
you might need this
White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807047414/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ScJWCbQ2VCE0D
In the Shadow of Statues: A White Southerner Confronts History https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525559442/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_udJWCb7H07RV6
Agreed. Here’s a book on the topic:
The same author gave a great talk about the book: smart, funny, and very informative: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45ey4jgoxeU
I do agree that people are racially distinct, but only if people are trained from an early age to treat those specific racial as significant. In Africa there are 27 major ethnic groups; to Africans those are visually distinct. To Americans, they're all just "black". The category of "white" is similarly artificial.  The boundaries of "white" have varied greatly over the years. So yes, I agree Americans will quickly classify somebody by race, but it's not primarily a visual difference, but one of specific cultural training.
I am saying that "special" treatment is not at issue here. The treatment was not just special; it was somewhere between suspicious and hostile. One of my colleagues there was just short of 7 feet tall. He was visually distinct but read as white. He often got treated differently, but never suspiciously. I doubt a white dude in a wheelchair would have gotten the third degree; my expectation is that people would immediately open the door for him.
As to calculus in high school, I know plenty of people who are programmers without it. I certainly have never used calculus while coding, so it doesn't make a practical difference.
As to how you can help, I think the best things to do are a) learn about America's history here, b) learn what present-day social structures help continue the diminished-but-still-ongoing oppression, and c) talking about them frankly. As somebody who didn't grow up here, you'll be able to see and talk about these things in a way that white people will listen to. Good books include Loewen's "Sundown Towns", Ijeoma Iluo's latest book, and Julie Lythcott-Haims recent memoir.
I hope that helps!
Second, I never said he was racist -- that's your interpretation. I specifically avoided that term because when white people are experiencing white fragility , which is certain to happen in a large group discussion like this, then they immediately cast any incident in into the common post-Civil-Rights-era frame of "racist=bad person" and start defending their fellow white person, who surely must be good. What I talked about was unconscious racial bias.
Third, your demanding "proof" is unreasonable. What would count? Should I have fMRI scans done of the person's brain under various stimuli? Even that wouldn't be enough; you could argue he might harbor racial bias, but that it wasn't active at the time he grilled my intern. I just looked at the last few pages of your comments here, and you have offered all sorts of reasonable opinions without ever giving a bit of proof. You are bringing up a standard that couldn't possibly apply and that you don't hew to yourself. You might ask yourself why.
Fourth, I included evidence. First, there was the testimony of the one witness who, even though he's still in college, has had to become an expert in America's still pervasive and demonstrable white bias against black people. Second, there was my testimony as to the nature of the environment and the rareness of an event like this. Third, as I mentioned, I talked about this with my boss. In all of our judgments, under the preponderance of the evidence, this was an unconscious racial bias incident. Nobody at the company thought otherwise, including HR and the black employee group, who deal with this sort of thing regularly at that company.
Fifth, it's not my job to prove anything to internet randos. It's your job to understand America's racial dynamics and how this fits in before commenting. I told this story knowing full well that I'd get salty replies from people who would react with instant denial to any description of a bias incident caused by someone like them (a well-meaning white tech dude). Why would they do that? Well, if you have studied American racial dynamics, you'll already know the answer to that. And if you haven't, I recommend that you read one or two of the four books I've already recommended in this discussion. You'll learn something.